I can't imagine anyone being foolish enough to go into a play party situation with strangers that add that type caveat to the invitation. Every flag and alarm I have go off at that.

I too have been married to my sub for over 10 years and there is no safeword for us. That's what works in our dynamic, other's may vary. I'm not going into a long discussion of how that happened or defending that decision. Suffice to say we're comfortable with things as they are. Having said that, never in all my years have I scened with a sub without a discussion and a safeword. Trust must be earned and the domme in this situation gives off a very untrustworthy vibe.