Quote Originally Posted by Silke
My only question to you would be, if - like me - dipping your toes in the actual experience does make the desire stronger and does NOT, at least in the longterm, ease it off because it's been taken care of....do you think it wise to follow your desires? *sighs* Did I really say that???


As for myself...I don't think I could be happy in a strictly vanilla relationship anymore, actually - I never have. I only didn't know where the catch was at the time. So yes, there's a need for me in this. And it scares me because it seriously limits the pool of men...
I do not think it wise to follow my desires. Actually sometimes I think it is very foolish to even think of following them or even to just think of them. Again a dilemma.

It does indeed limit the pool of men for you but at least you do know ahead of time what you want and can look for him from that vantage point. I wish you luck in that endeavor. For me, even if I had known ahead of time, I think I would have had a problem finding someone I could love for a lifetime and still share all my fetishes with. I would have had to love her first. In that respect, I think I am a very lucky man.