Originally posted by julise
I have met many in this realm and there are A LOT of people whose appearance actually allude to their personalities...in a very negative way.
Would you expand on that thought with some examples?


And yes, a lot of these people were fat, but for me it wasn't the fat per se but how
they took care of themselves and presented themselves (I believe this notion was also mentioned in a previous post). Most of them were the epitome of fat slobs physically AND mentally.
How many seconds/minutes and what conversation topics do you allocate to make a mental
assessment of someone? The thought of attending a munch makes me so uneasy that I doubt
attendance and intelligent conversation at the same time are possible. Generally speaking,
BDSM is looked upon as “kink” in the vanilla world so what do you do, specify to your friends
that you’re into a lifestyle concept that they can not fathom then expect them to set you up with a
like-minded person? Fat does NOT mean desperate!


everwilling's observation points to the convenience of not knowing, nor caring, where the light switch is.
Note that seeing with eyes wide open can also increase one's pleasure..
Is it possible that everwilling was trying to lighten the tone of the conversation? everwilling’s posts read anything but desperate. Seeing through the use of touch can also increase one’s pleasure.