How do the other Dom/mes Do?

[denuseri]

I couldnt say it any better Dea.

But what about simple cybersex?

I dont soliciate for dom/dommes myself for "play purposes" or otherwise at least not vulgarly at best i indirectly "entice", yet as we both are aware of this doesnt mean i dont get requested to fill in as a temp for many dominants in between subs. lol

I have had plenty of experience (cough) (then blushes) as most older members that frequented the chatroom may recall, with the whole cyber experience.

It can have its moments, even be downright delisiously delightful. I have never been any one online doms sub, alltough i have cybersexed a whole bunch of them(you will never see intials behind my name in here), I am owned in real life buy my husband Kuskovian. His collar on my neck while i sit here typing is more than enough a reminder of my our mutual devotion. He fully supports these activities on my part. I sure couldnt do it if he didn't and if you cant stand not knowing what our reasons are just pm us, we will tell you, just not in a public venue.

Now i can see all sorts of people reading this making faces and saying "what a slut" or "how could he let her do that etc" heck ive had worse said to my face in chat by some.

But truth be told, nothing is going to threaten our relationship, especially typing on a keyboard. Two people interating via the internet is a far cry from physical contact plain and simple (truth be told we dont see on line as anything other than interactive masturbation as far as role playing goes) and yet..........

In addition to deeply personal reasons for me to engadge in such activities that those of my friends that truely know me allready understand, I dont "play" to nessesarally just have fun so much as other more theraputic ventures.

If anything half the doms I have been with using this "carrot and stick" approach as my owner calls it, end up learning alot about just how to go about the art of domination during thier time with me, and i learn much from them as well (even some "Trolls" have been reformed), i am not tooting my horn so much as pointing out that practice helps, and online practice is one way as Dea mentioned to test the waters safely for people new to bdsm as well as learn what its all about.

practice between only new doms and or new subs, or one dom only doesnt pass along the same set of information and may severly end up limiting ones perspectives, especially for the brand spanking new submissive that doesnt know she can say "no" and ends up being manipulated into a narrow minded "i have to be his doormat" mentality,

Which is why i allways advise brand new girls to avoid dom/dommes on line that want to limit thier access to information, including "on-line play" to thier own exclusive needs.
Only allowing the submissive "One" perspective in an attempt to control or manipulate thier fish into the boat so to speak really shows a dominants insecurity in thier own skills sets and confidence level.

. Heck i even saw one girl that was so restricted she couldnt be online more than five minutes unless her domme was "present" in chat with her to "monitor" her activities, (and these people had never even met in real life, her domme would say "well its online how else can i control her"? wtf? (warning bells still go off in my head over that one)



After all back when we all began our own journys into bdsm didn't we wish someone we could trust was there to advise and teach us?- And didnt some of us regret putting ourselves in risky situations at the hands of real life people to learn?

Online has its advatages as opposed to throwing you slam bam into a full on overbearing sistuation or worse, preying on your inexperience to manipulate you into a potentially deadly scenerio in real life?

It is the least we "who have walked down the path can do" to reach back and help those that are begining thier own journeys.