I am honest to a fault and have no problem with letting someone know if they are or aren't satisfying me. I have already gone through the totem pole issue with one of my friends and we worked out the issue. He is very cool now and knows how I feel about him.
I am aware that a Dom may restrict my activities. I will try my very best to obey him. This is what I want to do and I wouldn't want to disappoint my master.

One of my friends is very timid and paranoid about getting caught when we sneak out to the woods for some fun. Last week I took complete control, told him to get in my car, drove us to a spot and demanded that he take off his pants. I was hungry and wanted to suck his cock. It felt really good to scare him and tell him what to do. I don't know if that is something I'd want to do on a regular basis but I definitely see the draw to being dominate.