You seem to prefer the idea of being conquered over the idea of submitting.

Those are two different traits, and some doms will be attracted to the one, while others will be attracted to the other.

You wouldn't have spotted me based on this. I don't do that with strangers, don't defer, don't agree, nothing. While it might be a good "short-hand" for doms to test the water, you also have to understand that this is also part of the "interview" done by a violent criminal/rapist looking for a mark.
Well, let's not forget the vast majority of rapists strike targets within their social or familial grouping. Most rapists do not bother with the interview portion of getting to know you. So you are, in fact, more likely to be 'interviewed" by someone who is just interested in getting to know you than in raping you.

I don't want to suggest you turn off your sensors and make yourself openly vunerable... but perhaps you are missing opportunities by having them turned up too high.