Originally posted by Faibhar
Originally, my post related to attempts to really enter into the BDSM lifestyle, and the general unattractiveness of the players, both physically and mentally.

Subsequent posts have frequently related to the some sort of relationship that lumps being overweight with an alluring character/personality. Using this same logic would seem to indicate that in order to enter into an active, real BDSM lifestyle, one should both look and act the part.


I understand what you're saying. However, resultant posts in this thread have led me to believe that the material is becoming less and less about entering the BDSM lifestyle in a satisfying way and more about the way people look and how they should take better care of themselves.

The simple fact of the matter is, if the individual themself is happy with their appearance, then that's what counts. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but that also means that just because you find something unpleasant to look at doesn't mean others do as well.

As for people in the BDSM lifestyle. They are regular people. They are as vast and various as any other random population sampling. Chronicling one group of lifestylers and kinksters as the stick by which all others will be measured demonstrates a lack of forethought and understanding. We all know that not every population can be determined by only seeing one small sampling of it.