Welcome to the site and sorry you are feeling sad *hugs* One thing I have found is I have been on this site with a personal ad on a different BDSM site and that can lead to a lot of conflicts. I found that I wanted a relationship with someone who just wanted to play and have a few play sessions and end of that. He really didn't want the emotional side of the relationship.

I too have that trifecta in my heart and I have realized that maybe instead of throwing myself in all these different ways to just figure out what I really want first and then go from there. It is a step back in having sex, or playing but in the end for me it will be not so emotionally hard and I won't be sad if a relationship doesn't work out.

The real time Doms that I have met I have asked for a meet and greet before playing to see if we have any chemistry. If we do maybe then go and meet a 2nd or 3rd time before playing. That way you know each other and know each other on a different level than just jumping in bed.

Take it slow research if you haven't been in the lifestyle long.

Sorry you are feeling sad.

Lil