Originally posted by bdsmbill
You wrote: "i have no wish to be squashed by someone who's like double or even triple my size."

I will have trouble, then. I am 6'2" and about 250 lbs. Some would consider me 20 lbs overweight, but even at 230 lbs I am double the weight of a large percentage of the female population. Luckily taste varies. Some women like big guys. Maybe they like the strength that goes with it. Perhaps there is an appeal that comes from knowing your partner can bench press twice your weight.

BDSMBill
uh oh. i think i feel a need to justify myself now.

this might get a little confusing. but that's just me. a complicated person who doesnt make much sense sometimes.

firstly. the part about vanity and the 'perfect' body et al. i really am not an advocate of cosmetic surgery and what have you, or even stuff like botox to make yourself look beautiful. what i am actually advocating, is self love. make yourself look good, based on what you were naturally blessed with. so yes, plump people can be beautiful too. have nothing against them. its just how you package yourself and present yourself to the world as i said earlier.

but as tourguide said 'The simple fact of the matter is, if the individual themself is happy with their appearance, then that's what counts. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but that also means that just because you find something unpleasant to look at doesn't mean others do as well.' --- that is absolutely true different people have different standards, different wants, different needs

so to conclude, fat, thin, ugly or beautiful, there'll always be a match somewhere. just gotta look hard.

and yeah i'd just like to make another point. there are people who are able to look beyond physical beauty. much as i am an advocate of 'vanity' ... yes i admit i'm a terribly vain person, but the guy i'm with isnt terribly good looking. he prolly weighs double my weight and is nearly double my age. i guess what matters most, is that you're comfortable with the person, that you're able to trust that person, and that you're happy.

if you are, then nothing else matters. tho yes, what others think is probably gonna affect you. but that's another matter to talk abt.