When did you know?

[subcurious63]

desdemona, i am so glad that you started this thread. i feel as if i have always known. i was only 7 years old when i saw an image of a little girl, tied naked to a tree crying. i wanted to be her, the feeling was so overwhelming that i can still clearly remember the image, and how i felt at that moment. To know that feeling of helplessness. i have also always fantasized about being taken. i imagined being kidnapped, bound, spanked, and used. i spent many years afraid of my thoughts and feelings...never allowing myself to share them with another living soul (not even my best friend), until a couple of years ago when i found an alternative dating site, and found that i was far, very far, from being alone in my thoughts and feelings. i have learned to embrace my dark side, and my perversions...it is who i am.

i was also like restrainedNtrained, and was always the one that was serving, and getting used...still find it hard to say NO...although i am learning.

i have often wondered how others knew as well...what was that moment, was it an image, or something someone said or did? It really is cool to find out how others realized that they were submissive or Dominant.

[sayuna]

I actually smiled when I saw the thread... certainly a bit of reminiscing! Intersting to see a lot of posts saying tendencies started from when they were young. For myself, I can remember when I was in the early teens, I liked to roll up in the quilt - so its a tight coocoon - then have a bit of a struggle
Certainly don't remember it being sexual (well, not when I was young anyway).

Then I came across the internet during my uni days... and along with it anime (or hentai). Strangely enough, I thought those cute cartoon characters being tied up a turn on (even those crazy tentacles!) Bless the Japanese for their wicked imagination.

Good to see there's an expert on psycology on the forum (thanks for your post SubmissiveDoll) - so its genetics over environment huh? Hmmm, I wonder if it always manifests itself sexually/physically... I for one have been much more turned on by the fantasizing and imagining, as opposed to the reality, which unfortunately has been quite uncomfortable / embarrasing the very few times I've dared to try. Ah, well, a forbidden fruit it remains then - maybe which is why it looks ever so tasty. Hats off to those who have tasted and found it to their liking.