Completely write down all your limits and make the prospective Dom or Domme read it and understand it. People in the heat of the moment do forget the verbal limits you tell them. This is human nature. The trick is to find a Dom that is interested in pleasuring the sub and getting pleasure from the sub and not into violating preset limits and in following the limits. This is a fine line we all walk. Thanks for the post. We need more people coming out with their horror stories to educate us.