Trinity, i feel for you as i am in somewhat the same situation. My husband is wonderful but not into bondage or submissiveness in anyway. So i joined this site, made lots of friends and as you have, acted out my fantasies online. I felt very guilty about this and one night, after a fair amount of wine, i came clean - starting with the stories i have written and posted on another site. When he had read some of them he was thrilled, and surprised. His 'wife' was someone in her own right, a horny, sexy open minded woman someone who had been forgotten during 20 years of marriage and four children! I then came clean about the chat sessions on here and that i talk to people regularly on YIM - he is absolutely fine about it and even finds it a turn-on. We now have an even better sex-life (albeit mostly vanilla) but he wants to please me and has even tried a little bondage and spanked me recently too so there is light at the end the tunnel. You know your own husband, is he quite an open minded person where sex is concerned but just doesnt feel like he is a dom? if u feel that he would react in a similar way then take the plunge - it may help u both to understand each other better and also make you feel better about the situation - no-one likes to lie to a loved one and should he find out without you being honest he may feel like he has been treated badly. I can only tell you how spilling the beans has helped me - it may not be the best thing for you, only you can decide that, but men are complex and you should wait for the right time.

Sorry to ramble on, but wanted you to know you are not the only one who is or has been in this position. If you ever want to talk message me on here or come onto YIM, i will be happy to listen.

xx love2serve