I've had my moments where the Dom thought he was going to think he was going to tell me what to do before we got to know each other first...need some ground breaking first and activities that you enjoy, might enjoy and might tolerated that the Dom wants to give....you are never a "bad girl" off the bat...you need to let them know yourself that you've been a bad girl and need a little lesson for it...especially if it's all new...there is such a thing as a breakin in lesson...if I remember more, let you know...