Quote Originally Posted by bambina View Post
See that's weird to me Flesh. But I guess that's because I feel punishment should be used as a form of rightful discipline. Like if I did poorly on an essay or test. Or if I arrived 20 minutes late because of poor planning. Or if I didn't do well on something that actually affected me socially or economically. If not, then punishment seems a waste. As if no matter how good I am, I'm still bad. And, at that point I rebel and lose respect for my Dom for not actually teaching me anything. He's just looking for a reason to get his own kicks.
GUY 1: "I gave her twenty hard whacks. Then I dripped candle wax all over her behind, slowly...really letting her anticipate each drop. Once that was over I made her get on all fours and serve as my footrest."

GUY 2: "Jesus, what did she do to deserve that?"

GUY 1: "She was...twenty minutes late!"

Is that any more intellectually honest? ^_^ In rightful discipline the punishment typically fits the crime. We need to remember that sexual punishment and discipline in BDSM isn't really punishment at all a lot of the time- it's a sensation the slave wants to feel. So using it as a consequence for actual failures it treads a dangerous road.

If someone does terribly on a test, I don't think a leading team of psychiatrists would recommend a riding crop as the first punitive measure. There are other ways to solve problems like chronic tardiness or poor work habits.

I'm no psychologist but I think it might invite danger. If you like getting punished for poor results in crucial life situations, it may subconciously encourage you to do less than your best.

Just my two cents.

- FS