Dixie that is great advice. So many people like to play. I was starting to believe I wasn't a true participant of the BDSM practice. That this lifestyle wasn't for me. I was kind of thinking that play was something you HAD to be into, just like you HAD to enjoy some sort of fetish. Discipline is hot but only when it's deserved. Many already know I have a rape fantasy. I want a man to forcefully pleasure and Dominate me, even against my will and force me to enjoy it (even if I don't want to) and punish me by inflicting pain whenever I don't listen. Like if I was yelping while he penetrated me and he pinched my nipples (which REALLY hurts people) and he told me that, if I don't be quiet, he'll pinch them harder. This forces me to shut up even when I'm in pain. Brilliant. Using pain to make me submit. Who came up with that?