What makes a good submissive....

[damyanti]

Yes, what Amber said...though now it also seems kind of pointless to disagree with your post.

Its beautifully written, it is. Its not that all those aren't worthy qualities to strive for, they are.

Still, it irks. It comes down to demanding perfection. Let me rephrase that, it comes down to expecting perfect submission on a platter. Not to mention some of your traits are negating of each other.

Perhaps I am just weary of debates brewing at this site for the past few days about how to be a "good" submissive, or trying to pin down who is the "true" submissive. I just find it all, no personal offense, a bit nauseous. Even so called nice guys, don't seem to want a real person, but an obedience machine...a perfect, obedient machine. And then they are actually surprised why I find them lacking and boring.

And while there seem to be a few here who have achieved such perfection, and I applaud them for their choice...to me perfection is a flaw itself.

I am a person who is submissive; not a submissive person. To me there is a distinction. While not perfect, I don't think there is anything wrong with the way I am. Perhaps I am the one who is mistaken...but where did you get the notion that being a submissive means fitting into someone else's mold of the way I should be? To me that just stinks of someone who is incapable to overpower me the way I am.



"Congratulations! You're not perfect! It's ridiculous to want to be perfect anyway. But then, everybody's ridiculous sometimes, except perfect people. You know what perfect is? Perfect is not eating or drinking or talking or moving a muscle or making even the teensiest mistake. Perfect is never doing anything wrong - which means never doing anything at all. Perfect is boring! So you're not perfect! Wonderful! Have fun! Eat things that give you bad breath! Trip over your own shoelaces! Laugh! Let somebody else laugh at you! Perfect people never do any of those things. All they do is sit around and sip weak tea and think about how perfect they are. But they're really not one-hundred-percent perfect anyway. You should see them when they get the hiccups! Phooey! Who needs 'em? You can drink pickle juice and imitate gorillas and do silly dances and sing stupid songs and wear funny hats and be as imperfect as you please and still be a good person. Good people are hard to find nowadays. And they're a lot more fun than perfect people any day of the week." ~Stephen Manes, Be a Perfect Person in Just Three Days!


"You see, when weaving a blanket, an Indian woman leaves a flaw in the weaving of that blanket to let the soul out." ~Martha Graham

"The imperfections of a man, his frailties, his faults, are just as important as his virtues. You can't separate them. They're wedded." ~Henry Miller

"Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

"Certain flaws are necessary for the whole. It would seem strange if old friends lacked certain quirks." ~Goethe

And my favourite person to quote:

"The human story does not always unfold like a mathematical calculation on the principle that two and two make four. Sometimes in life they make five or minus three; and sometimes the blackboard topples down in the middle of the sum and leaves the class in disorder and the pedagogue with a black eye." ~Winston Churchill (Too bad, they don't make them like him anymore.)