Thank you to all your replies. I am interested in hearing more.

I do agree the message is full of labels. I am not one for labels.

For me, the relationship between D/s M/s or D/p (whatever your label) is, for lack of a better word... sacred. It is not just sex or online cam play until you are board and find the next one.

It is something that takes time. Communication and honesty are so important. It is a growing process, which is hopefully getting better with each passing day, each moment, each barrier broken, each lesson learned, each task completed. Complete trust in one another. two halves of the coin.

The same for many, I know, but nice to hear each individuals ideas and thoughts. BDSM is like spicy food. So many wonderful varieties and levels of intensity.

It was interesting for me to hear this elder's Doms thoughts on the matter. He is a good friend and a delight to speak with.

These are his thoughts I've posted with his permission.

Again, thank you to all who have shared their thoughts.

~J