Do us guys 'dictate' what women should wear?? I certainly don't!
For as long as I can remember, I've liked to see women in stiletto heels, especially those lovely sharp, spikey heels, but there is no way that I would expect them to wear shoes like that if they didn't want to.
Doesn't really matter to me if they wear thigh-highs with 6-inch heels, DMs or a pair of trainers - it's the person that matters most.