In that respect you are right and I am showing myself to be an old fuddy-duddy.

Ultimately BDSM is about control rather than pain or even tissue damage. And you are right in that the metes and bounds of the scope of BDSM are the battleground for control between Domme and sub. You are the one ultimately in control.

On the other hand thirty years ago I was fuddy-duddying about safesex. I got ignored. Almost all of those who ignored me are dead. I take no satisfaction in this. I remember them. Many of them I still mourn for they were excellent friends.

All of the above being said, can I recommend to your Domme that you deserve three dozen of the best? And the photos of the result to be posted to the Personal Photography thread with updates in color every three days to show the evolution of the bruises!

Corrected but still unrepentant.