If it didnt borther you then youd be poly.
I am a jealous person, in the biggest way. I wouldnt be with someone if they already had a "frist girl" or a sub. I wouldnt allow myself to be put in that position no matter how great i thought the Dom was.

The old saying goes "two's company, threes a crowd", or "more cooks in the kitchen ruin the stew" . I think thats very true. If he wasnt paying attention to you then he would be with his submissive youd get jealous, insecurties would creep in, and then fights happen.
Aqua i think ive told you this before, but dont ever put yourself in a situation to get hurt, thats a situation to get hurt, to get very hurt. You were hurt in the chat the other night and brought this question to everyone in the room, you didnt like the answers we gave you becuase it meant that you had to leave the situation which you didnt want to do. So dont put yourself in a situation that will crush you EVERYDAY and then not want to leave.

you said in the chat that he was choosing between you and the other girl. Dont ever make a man or woman choose. I tried to make my ex chose and she told me that "if you are going to make me chose then you are not worth my time, Ill be with the person that doesnt force me to make decision based on fear, or jealousy." Im not saying you are making him pick, im just saying, you told me he was picking between the two of you. You two arnt grocery items he can debate over. He should have choosen right off the bat, there shouldnt be a waiting period, you all are young like me, not married, no kids, no shackles so to speak, so his choice should have been made a WHILE ago, bc i know you have been dealing with this since.. about a month ago.

I didnt mean to make this post/thread personal but ive been where you are, online and in real life, both suck just as bad, well one more then the other but whatever. Both left me feeling not good enough, and thats hard to bounce back from, something im still dealing with. Your Dom should make you feel like your the only one, and if he wants to bring someone else in the mix later, then you all talk about it. See what works for you two, but dont ever stay in a sitation where your getting hurt just bc u want him around, or bc he Doms you the right way.