Bambina, I have to totally agree with you. This is the single most tolerant group of people I've ever known--not just about fetishes, either. As for the rape fantasy: you know, I think if it's not common, it's at least more common than people suspect. My ex had a similar fantasy, and we both rather enjoyed it. It's not something I'd ever talk about with people you meet on the street, though. They can't separate fantasy from reality. (And they think WE'RE messed up!)