I play with quite a few guys and if im honest gals too! I take people as i find them - i was upset badly by a guy who lied about his relationship status and i ended up conversing with a very angry girlfriend! Not something id like to repeat. However, i look on this as being the other persons problem - i am always as honest as possible, when asked for a description of myself i am quick to point out that i am no supermodel, a bit overweight etc. why lie? If a person still wants to 'play' thats fine, if they make their excuses and slink away then also thats fine - their loss! I agree that people are not always honest with you on here but its them who have to live with that, if you are happy in the knowledge that you are open and honest in everything that you can be then why worry. My husband for example knows i go on here and that i 'play' online - he is happy with that and reaps the benefits of my new found sexuality , i always tell people about my husband and always tell them how old i am (47) and find that it hardly ever is a deterrant. But i also agree with you, why cant people just be themselves or is it the fact that most will never meet and therefore will never be found out?