hmmmm good post, yes i agree there is often a lot of confusion around these points:

your questions:

1) Do you equate proper dictation with Dominance? Why, or why not?
2) Do you see honorifics as a necessity? Why, or why not?
3) Do you find a strong personality to be a turn on or a turn off? Why?

Let's see taking them in order, seems logical:

1) no i do not feel that i do, it is difficult for me to pin down why i feel that people are either subs or dommas (i myself am a switch) i feel certain ways towards individuals as a result of chatting to them and the vibes that they give me.

it is not a diction or grammar thing, my Domma happens to be very intelligent, but choses not to type in a conventionally recognised way that would normally be associated as intelligent, she uses shortened versions of words and grammatical phrases, at no point during our discussions did i feel that her style or rather preferred use of language was associated with her intelligence or dominance, i never assumed any correlation between the two.

It was what she said that led me to think her a dominant, she is a switch also, however there was very little doubt from the outset that she was the dominant one between us, i at times can waffle on and meander around a subject in an erudite, articulate and eloquent way, and make very little ground, where as she will simply cut to the chase and address the issue or make her feelings known instantly, no, dominance is about what is said, not how, in my opinion.


2) absolutely not, NO, such titles are always earned and from my viewpoint NEVER given, for a start no one is my sir or Domma other than my Domma (i would not have a sir, so not an issue for me) however other dommes can not expect me to address them other than by their names, as they have not earned or should expect me to use honorific titles.

Part of my submission to my Domma was my desire to call her by this title, she did not and has never told me to address her so, it is as a result of my submissions that i desire to show my surrender to her by addressing her with such a title.

I am for ever telling subs in chat and when i meet them that i am not their sir, and as such there is no need to address me as such, now i know that some doms instruct their subs to address all dominants this way, and i, once i let them know that i am not their dom, if they still feel a desire to address me as sir have no particular issue with being addressed so, i don't have a problem with the word of course, but i would never expect to be or desire from the outset that subs prefix my name with such an honorific.

to be honest, as such titles are earned and given never really taken unless this is the case and a sub really desires to address me so it is little more than a hollow word anyway, yes of course i could call all female dominants Domme or Miss, or madam i have the ability to type the words, but do i feel the words to be true or just, NO of course not, it is the same for me as a sir, when i see that one desires to address me so then it is a wonderful and meaningful title, and only then, so you see i have done it again, i have rambled where as my Domma would say NO, not necessary, LOL.

3) well on this on i feel safer, there being no right or wrong answer, in no way can what ever i type here been seen as pejorative or incorrect, lol. so here goes:

Yes i do, i am hugely turned on and attracted by strong personalities, i find them immensely appealing and i am just drawn, no other word for it to people who have a strong and confident manner about them, irrespective of whether they be male of female domma or sub.

As for a turn on and why, i am a huge believer in the fact that i feel at least 90% of BDSM is mental, the power play of the mind, i can not even consider playing in chat unless my mind is engaged or aroused, capture the mind and the body follows, this is fact, it is why submission can never be taken only ever given, and in order to achieve surrender the mind must be entertained and enthralled by the dominant.

I can feel myself when i am chatting to people being drawn to strong intellects. for me it is the mental sparring, the dance if you like as we engage in word play and banter. I can actually feel the adrenalin begin to course through my veins as i become aroused.

So yes, yes yes, for me it is a huge turn on, and this is for both dominants and subs, to be honest, without the strength of personality she could look like a model and make all the right noises from a submissive point of view i would not be interested as a dom in her.

Stimulate my grey stuff and you have me, my mind controls my body, once this is engaged i am yours.