Does it scare you?

No not in the slightest. Humans are who they are, regardless of what is on the outside. The desire to be who you truly are exists for us all. I want my image to reflect who I am and I go to great care and attention to detail to ensure my outward appearance matches my inward personality. Dont confuse that with vanity. I dont always achieve it, I just like to be me. How can I possibly not understand that of anyone else.

Would you take the person seriously as another sex?

Of course I would. If they were genuine and compassionate and true to themselves then how could you not?


Would you still find your partner sexually attractive as another sex?

I believe this is one where I would struggle. I am definately heterosexual and so by that rule I would be in a relationship with a man. If he were to change to a female, that would not only question my own sexuality but I somehow feel it would go against everything that I am as a woman. I have great admiration for the female form in all it's lovliness, but I want and desire a man. I'm not saying I wouldnt still have feelings for them. Love is not something you can switch on or off.

Would you still stay with them if they wanted to be another sex?

Perhaps I would to support them through their change but I feel, in respect of my previous answer, continuing a relationship would be difficult. I certainly wouldnt abandon anyone for questioning who they are and making changes to be the person they desire to be.

What if you were with someone, a male?
Then one day they came out and told you they used to be female, would you stay with them or leave them, why or why not? (Visa versa this question if you are male with a female)

OK from a practical point of view, I believe it is more difficult to to tell with a woman that she used to be male. Physically, from my understanding, it is much more difficult for a woman to become a man because of the intricate workings of the associated genitalia. But I am not ruling out ever being in that situation. I am no expert.

Mentally....well it would be wrong to judge a person for their past, especially if they had gone to such effort to change it. I'm sure it would be something that needed a lot of discussion and reassurance. But if you truly love someone...how could you not accept everything that they are and see it as a wonderful and character forming trait of who they really are.

Also, how do you feel about transgender?
Do you believe that this is how we were born and it should stay that way no matter what?

I think it would be churlish to deny all of the research both pyschological and physical that has gone into this topic for many years. None of us are ever completely happy with ourselves as we are. The human race has evolved over thousands of years. Perhaps this is just another form of development. In my life I have counselled many people about their unhappiness and confusion, depression and anxiety. Transgender has never yet crossed my path and I think I would feel slightly out of my depth if it did. But one thing I am sure of is that as human beings we deserve the right to be able to live our lives with love and happiness. If changing gender, having a boob job, cutting your hair, getting a tattoo, whatever it takes contributes to your mental wellbeing then I say do it. We only get one shot at life, we should embrace it with our whole hearts.

Personally, I'm happy with who I am, it's taken me 36 years to work out who that is and I'm still learning about some aspects of my personality. I dont feel the need to physically change, I try to do the best I can with what I have naturally. That does not mean that I dont understand or support such needs in others. The world would be a dull place if we were all the same. I feel genuine sympathy for those who feel they are not who they should be.

Thanks Shayna...a good topic to make me think today.

xx