Having only just joined the forum I read this thread first and I will follow it with fever. I my self have had sexual relationships with women who were.....wel a bit kinky. But no more then blindfolds, cuffs and name calling. I Found I enjoyed this very much. The dom status seemed to appeal to me. Since then I have kept my fantasies and my desires a secret from partners for fear of scaring them away. I have had many happy relationships but none that truley "floated my boat". Since my first experiance with what I would call "power play" aged 14 I have enjoyed tye more sadistic part of my sexuality on the internet but never explored it further. For years i have classed my self in the same sexual freak catagory normally reserved for rapists and peadophiles but have recently decided that my sexual orientation is not wrong. If forums like this exist than surely lots of other people enjoy the same thing right? and your not judging the thread starter for admitin his likes revolve more around the pain than the sex ( as mine do I think) has inspired me to join the forum. I may post some annoying questions as I start my lonely journey in to the world I have longed for 11 years to belong to to I will say this. Thank you to the thread starter for being so honest and making me realise I can be to an a pre-emptive thank you to you all for being so accepting of people sexuality/ (although I'd expect nothing less on a site with such a name.