Spike:

While you and your partner have gotten a taste of the excitement of different sexual experiences, I'd hardly say that you have actually experienced the lifestyle. Yes, bondage and toys add a remarkable spice to sex; and yes, there will be times when it will seem just a bit more trouble than you want. Just ease into the extension of the relationship and enjoy the fun. You don't have to "separate" the two. Besides, if you're still in school and apart, you've got plenty of time to develop where the each of you are in your mental and physical relationship (trust me. Been there.) Vanilla, strawberry, chocolate, butter pecan. Everyone likes a bit of change. Hey, even rocky road gets old every single meal! Explore carefully and curiously. But enoy without pressuring either each other or yourself. Life is short. Play hard.

the Snark