I love MY group! i stood out but i stood out wonderfully, and they made me feel so welcome and wanted...not all are like this and i know but i had a really good experience and i found me a mentor in the group who is highly recommanded..and a Big Sweetie..and i enjoy my time everytime i get to go to a munch..i love forward to the next one in a few wks...and i hopeflly i get to go to my first dungeon party...*blushes*..

i would say go alone..for alot of us..espeically submissive females/males..its scary..because we are "alone" but mostly everyone there started out as a newbie...either to the group or to the lifestyle, so once we got over that inital shock of being "alone" and no one to talk with..things ususally fall into place.

im all about going to munches, even if large gatherings arent your things..especially if your looking to go into rt..w/o jumping straight into a dungeon or play party...go, experience, explore and meet like minded ppl in the lifestyle...

my first one, the HeadMistress and the Munch Coor. stayed with me and talked to me and made me feel welcome and warned me for protiental predators..who werent that bad but just jump from sub to sub..and i will always remember that!

good luck and i wish you the best hun!!! xoxo