Quote Originally Posted by hopperboo View Post
The minute someone used face slapping against me as a 'punishment' I'd be walking out the door.

Face slapping to many is already close to abuse, and has to be treated carefully (I'm still not fully sure how much I like the idea of it...I love it in some ways, and I detest it in others), but to me I think the minute that is used as a punishment it becomes abuse.

And I don't mean that in a pretty sense of the word.


All IMHO.
Hi! I must admit, I'm curious... how is using a bullwhip on a slave, or a cat o' nine tails, or a bamboo cane, not abuse when used as punishment, in your opinion? I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion...I just don't understand. No matter how hard a slap is, whether it is with the front or the back of the hand, whether it is one cheek or both- I can't inherently view it as abusive. Not when the same slave might have been given 20 or more bullwhip lashes, or strikes with a cane. Not only does it not hurt as much, it doesn't have anywhere near the same damage potential (in most cases), and can (depending on the situation) lack premeditation. If I were going to catagorize anything bdsm as abusive, inherently, I would point to dozens of creative punishments before I would face slapping. I think perhaps many women just have it set that anything above the shoulders is abuse... but there's really no logical reason for that, that I can think of. I've actually known far more victims of abuse who were never hit in the face because of the potential for marks, than I have victims who were regularly slapped across the face. This is JMO... this just seems like more of an emotional reation than a logical one. Not that there's anything wrong with that either. --Jenn