How do you "look" for a Dom?

[miimii]

Miimii, I hit the "thanks" button but it's not enough - I want to thank you so much for this useful post. I have certainly wondered the same thing myself.

And thanks to everyone who has provided resources. I joined alt-dot-com today, on the advice of Ragoczy and SnickerKitten, but boy, is it depressing!

I'm glad that you find it helpful as well! I know it sounds kind of like I'm asking to be spoonfed, but honestly, I just don't know. My previous experiences found me meeting men who just weren't for me for various reasons. For me another concern is that while I want to be respectful, just because a Dom notices me and wants to communicate with me, that doesn't make him my new Dom. KWIM?

I also have been in some not very safe situations as well and I am truly scared of being put in another one. The more I think of it, I probably should have asked the question in this way...to the owned subs on this forum, what was it that made you know that your Dom was your Dom? What were some of the things that He/She did that let you know that you were safe and that they were a safe person to give your submission to?

Again, thanks everyone for your responses!