How do you "look" for a Dom?

[jeanne]

...what was it that made you know that your Dom was your Dom? What were some of the things that He/She did that let you know that you were safe and that they were a safe person to give your submission to?

Our relationship didn't start online, but I knew Him from here at the library. What that means is - I had been reading His posts for about 6 months, but we had only had one direct interaction - He mentioned a 'position' in a games thread, I PMed Him for an explanation, He explained, I thanked Him...and that was it. Over the months of reading His posts I was intrigued by Him, He appeared to be the kind of Dom that could be trusted, but I did not pursue a further relationship with Him.

Then He took a road trip and posted His route and stated His intention to meet people from the library for coffee or lunch if they'd like...so I did. We met for lunch...the chemistry was intense, and yet I felt safe...and I knew He could be the Dom of my deepest desires, if I were able to let go. I was, He is, and it's wonderful. If you're interested, here's the story of how we met. http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...ad.php?t=11686

I don't know if this helps. Trust your instincts. There's a difference between that delicious feeling of anticipation tinged with fear and an outright blaring of your internal warning system. Think about how you felt entering unsafe situations...I'd be willing to bet deep inside you knew.