Hm... I probably don't know what I am talking about - but why don't you let it come naturally? I once tried to make it work with a Dom who used lots of tricks and planned it all and it didn't work for me... it seemed so forced and not real.
My Master now lets things come slow, he adds one thing at a time when it feels right and it makes me really happy. Plus it always keeps me on my toes as to what he has left up his sleeve.