funny story that was me until i started switching. Now that I'm more Dom I'm less "in charge by day".
Though when i was only a sub i was also super in charge at work. I was the boss! but if i got a Dom guy on my team it was OVER, id end up in the parking lot in his car in two seconds.
So yeah... Cancer. The more in charge during the day i am the more submissive I am in bed. The less in charge I am during the day the more Dom I am in the bedroom.