crossing the line mark 2

[AdrianaAurora]

I subscribe to His philosophy

Some of the things I do to her may superficially resemble abuse, but there's an important difference, I am doing these things because we both enjoy them, and in a manner that is respectful of her limits and desires. Treating ones partner with respect means treating your partner the way she wants to be treated - no law says that nice guys never fuck their wives in the ass or tell their girlfriends to strip and masturbate in front of them. It creates a deep intimacy that's hard to beat. This kind of exploration and sharing creates a bond of intimacy and trust that's more romantic and more passionate than you may believe.
I focus on my partner, and what she needs, social preconceptions of who "women are" mean nothing to me. My focus is on the woman I am with rather than what "women want."

Why would I want to deliberately hurt my most precious possession?
Ah, that's a bit tricky. I've been involved in BDSM and D/s long before I had words to describe either. The best single safety tool we have is our common sense. D/s is arguably one of the most complex forms of all human relationships, and it's different for everyone--something that works for one person doesn't apply to another. Mastering one set of protocols no more makes you an expert than mastering macaroni and cheese makes you a five-star chef.

I've met many people who engage in BDSM activities, such as bondage or spanking, but who insist they are "not into that BDSM stuff." Usually, it's because they have an idea in their heads about what BDSM is, like "BDSM means wearing a leather mask and being chained to a wall and whipped, and I don't like that, so I'm not into BDSM." But BDSM doesn’t necessarily mean wearing a hood and being chained to the wall. If you like being lightly spanked or light bondage excites you, then you're into BDSM.

Some people, myself included, love the aesthetic of an elaborate form of bondage; others simply aren't interested in the bondage elements at all. Some people, myself included, love eroticism of caning, the pain, her submission and especially how lovely her bottom looks afterwards. The key to all these different forms of BDSM, though, is the exchange of power or sensation. One person is choosing to allow the other person to have control over him or her in some way, or to inflict sensation in some way.

There is not one "right" way to behave that applies to all people all the time. If something adds pleasure to your life and to your partner's life, then it's not a bad thing, even if it is unconventional.

I am too lazy and too respectful to ever bother judging anyone. I once or twice got worried about the personal safety of some people, but once I was reassured about that, its their life.

The only thing that makes my blood boil is when someone tries to indoctrinate newbies by playing with them and telling them "my way is the real BDSM" or "you have to be slave/kajira/you have to be 24/7/you have to like spanking/or whatever." I am a firm believer of philosophy that there are as many BDSM ways as there are BDSM couples.

Individual acts make no journey less valuable or meaningful than those of your peers, so enjoy your exploration (regardless of what that includes or excludes). Take your time, savor the journey - as I learned to trust Him, as we continue to grow comfortable with each other on levels I thought no human being would ever be comfortable letting someone else in - I find I enjoy things I never thought I could.

I feel both lucky and blessed that at the end of the day I have someone to hold me, someone who takes me into His arms and says "Who cares what those people say. This is who we are and this is the only thing that is real. The only thing that matters," and then I am safe and I cant be bothered with what others think.