Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Tomcat View Post
Her lack of trust is what is hurting me this time. I know it's going to take her a while to open up to me again, but I need to know she is somewhat serious about it. I am not going to hang on and hope she comes back. I need to know she wants to try and make an effort. I need some trust so I don't feel like im putting in effort and not getting any out.

Call it selfish, call it pointless, thats how I feel.
Not selfish, Tom, but a wee bit selfcentered. (see all the red highlights). This is about Her. From her post and yours, she was the injured party and now it's time for you to pay the price. Your only decision is, is she worth it? Is your relationship worth it.

If so, you're going to have to hang on and tolerate her lack of trust until she can once again feel safe with you. Hopefully, you two will sit down and work this out and move forward. Hopefully, if she takes you back, you will never give her cause for doubt again.