Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Tomcat View Post
Just re-read her first post and wanted to add..

...another thing, I have mended my ways. You are the one that left once after we got back together then left the other day, according to you it was because of what happened a long long time ago.

It's done and over with, I haven't messed up since. You are the one that left because you weren't over what happened way back then. Thats what you told me, but you also told me when we got back together that it's the past. Sorry you can't actually tell me the truth over if it was still bothering you or not.

I have keep the F-ing faith with our relationship through all this. I have been there for you through all of the crap that you experienced in your life with your mother and all that crap since we got back together.

I have every right to upset you left (not saying that anyone said I don't). So don't try and make it seem like this is all my fault. (again not saying that you are, just saying).

YOU agreed to come back. You COULD have said no if you were still worried about what happened. You say you dove back into it. So did I. If you needed space you could have taken it. But I damn well deserve a reason for you needing space and frankly I didn't see it like that. I saw you lose faith in me, I saw you lose faith in us. Through it all I was there fighting for you not to go.

So there, it's up to you to decide! Not me, I already said I would love to have you back you know that. It's up to you to decide if you are willing to try and put what happened behind us in some way. But DO NOT say you are willing to work things out with me and then pull out this whole "you cheated before" argument. I did it ONCE. I messed up, and I still came back to you and you came back to me. That HAS TO say SOMETHING.

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I am here, proclaiming my love for you YET AGAIN and doing all of this for you to try and understand that I really am sorry. That has to show something.

Glad to see you are such a martyr for this relationship. I just find it interesting to see that despite your acknowledgment that you were the one to screw up, you still believe that the onus is entirely on tommiecat to fix the hurt, anger and distrust you caused.

You seem to want to be thanked for 'letting' her come back after you cheated on her. You want to be thanked for saying you have changed. Well, actions speak louder than words - your previous actions spoke volumes and a few "I'm mending my ways" comments just can't make up for that.

Your obvious anger in your post and your expectation that she needs to give you more reason for needing space push me to tell you to calm down. If you really love this girl give her some space and be there for her when she needs you.

Prove to her she can trust you! That is part of your 'give' in the 'give and take', especially when you broke her trust in the first place by fucking someone else.