Quote Originally Posted by Veralynne View Post

Just wondering if anyone could share any tips, information, encouragement- and especially personal stories about the first time meeting your Masters! (assuming it was the same situation- met and talked online before meeting in real life)
Well, Veralynne, I have been thinking about this a lot and I think I can give you a tip. I don't think you want my whole story, though. The tip is this - spending a lot of time getting to know someone long distance is a double-edged sword. As someone already mentioned, you feel safer in certain ways to reveal more of yourself, and you can also allow yourself to experience your emotions possibly more quickly and deeply than you otherwise would. On the other hand, there's a lot more room long-distance to fill any gaps in your information with your own fantasies and not with the reality of the other person. If you then choose to meet in person, there will inevitably be some amount of disconnect between the fantasy and the reality.

Some people, I think, try to deal with this by prolonging the fantasy as much as possible, avoiding getting additional or conflicting information or discounting it when it arises. In my opinion, this is a mistake, because normal healthy people can only discount unwanted information for so long. Eventually it does catch up with you. So my advice would be, enjoy being 24/7, enjoy fulfilling your fantasies, but make room for both of you to move beyond them. Be aware that the reality of spending an entire weekend with a stranger-but-not-a-stranger can be jarring. Allow yourselves to experience that - it's OK and you can move beyond it, but only if you make room for it first.

In my case, some of which I've posted elsewhere, I think the reality was too much for one of us. It was presented to me as a big surprise that arose at the end of the weekend, but in retrospect I don't think so. I arrived on Friday and we had a great afternoon of generally fulfilling fantasies, but then he had to be out quite late for his work and I went to sleep waiting for him. He was very pleased and grateful that I intended to sleep and that I did not require tremendous care and nurturing - but. But I wonder what it was really like for him to come home and find someone sleeping in his bed. In a way that's much more intimate than some things that people do. In any event, the next day wasn't the same at all. I think if we'd been prepared for these kinds of things, and had discussed them, the weekend might have been different.

In terms of meeting expectations, or disappointing your partner, I agree with others that I don't think you need to worry about that.