Hello denuseri

No reason to go into PM on this one, I am all happy to be public.

Sad to hear that you gotten hurt, but I was disappointed reading your first reply, it could very well be interpreted as you saying.
"Meeting someone is too dangerous" And so your post could very well be interpreted as more or less discouraging Veralynne from seeing the person she so much wanted to meet.

Back to Veralynne the OP in the end here:
Can add one thing not in my first post where I only agreed on the idea already mentioned on meeting on your home turf.
Safety has its place, ask what BDSM community the one you are to meet belong to, then make a call to the chairman or whatever contact person they might have. A second opinion on someone is can be good to have.