Ditto to the "safety first" responses.

I've been fortunate in the fact that both Doms I met were understanding of my fear. The two friends, who supported my first meeting, called me every half hour the first day. lol (we were together five days, the first time)

The second Dom I met up with at a restaurant - his request, cuz like Dragon (which is a beast btw lol) said, there's some nutty subs out there and he was playing it cautious.

We enjoyed a very vanilla day together and ended the meeting with a hug.

Hope you have a better safe than sorry encounter. Enjoy.