I am speaking only for myself. Wish I could find a Dominant who didn't almost immediately, upon initial contact, want to play at having sex. I don't play well, unless of course i'm joking around.

D/s to me is first and foremost a relationship. Otherwise it is merely (and excuse my language) sportfucking or abuse. For me, sex begins and stays in the mind, not between my legs. While I do not mind the phsycial aspects, I am much more aroused by the psychological manipulation.

So while I believe there are those that require sexual contact, I do not believe it is always necessary to culminate a relationship and make it whole. It is rather the icing on the cake, so to speak. But it is not the cake itself.