I find that all too many people are looking for a perfect fit.

But that's not how people in real life interact. They adapt. He'll adapt to you. You'll adapt to him. You'll find things neither of you thought appealed that appeal in common because of the interaction between you.

Not trying and losing an opportunity is far worse in my opinion than trying and saying... "okay, I didn't think I'd like that and now I know for sure."

I have never found a perfect submissive... but I've made some because they were willing to explore their boundaries... as was I.

I have a perfect sub now. Was I her perfect dom? Probably not but I am now. Nor am I the same dom I was... I am better.