Pearlgem, thank you for asking these questions.

When I raise these issues, his response is usually "you won't have to do this all the time or go all the time, etc.". I feel it's not in my best interest to be with someone who can't/won't accept my limitations. That would be unfair to both of us. I don't understand why he's having problems comprehending that I want him to have what he desires. But, not at the risk of sacrificing myself.

I feel my needs would be met "if" my very real issues and concerns weren't there. My requirements are pretty simple; A strong Dominant who will respect my limitations. A bit of chemistry would be nice as well.

Roadrunner, my reaction to his responses is that things will be fine for a while and once I can't/won't comply, it may fall under the "disobedient" column.