Read, read, read, have a sleep and then read some more. Buy "Screw the Roses, send me the Thorns" and SM101 (both on Amazon and other sites). Get chatting on this and other good forums and also check out your local scene (Cardiff, Swansea? or the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar is good fun) for munches - casual meetings, normally in a pub so no latex or whips on show (!), of the perverts in your area. You'll find they are generally normal people. Don't get swept up in the romantic notion of meeting your perfect partner in week one (or week 87!) otherwise you might be disappointed. But do enjoy yourself, it's supposed to be fun!