Quote Originally Posted by KingSean View Post
Hello my fellow Doms,

I come to you with a common problem, I need guidance. I am a 23/m/Dom and I don't want to be one of those posers who thinks training a sub is to have him/her do whatever random sex act their unimaginative walnut brains come up with and if they disobey they get whipped. That is a child playing with napalm, its dangerous and stupid. I want to take this culture seriously. My request is this, help me to acquire the knowledge and tools needed so I may deserve the trust of an experienced sub. I know that it is about my needs first but how to read a sub and her needs, when she deserves punishment and reward. How to punish a sub if you are not a sadist (I am not one). How to reward a sub and not seem weak. Finally I wish to learn the psychological undercurrents of the D/s relationship. If i could also chat with an experienced Dom to pick his brain that would help a great deal. Thank you for your time.

KingSean
I am a slave, but nevertheless I just wanted to say "listen to her", whoever she may be that you decide to take on. Listen with every part of your body- including gut instinct. It always amazes me (even after 13 years together) that my Master can just see inside my mind and know exactly what button to push...or avoid. Sometimes, what subs/slaves say with their voice is not what their eyes are telling you for example. That's all I have to provide you...listen. Also, thank you for your respect for our lifestyle. Note: My Master just said for me to tell you to listen as much as to what is NOT being said as you do to what is said.