Thank you Aibo........This is my very first experience with D/s and i really wasn't sure of the rules (so to speak). The info i'm getting from everyone just reinforces that tiny little voice in the back of my head. i told Him several days ago i didn't feel this was right and haven't heard from Him since and we usually spoke every day. i was hoping He would step up to the plate and share something, proving He was legitimate but i don't see that happening......such a shame but probably best in the long run.