The essence of D/s?

[frankee]

Damn that was a good post dtp- you & Mina have hit the nail right on the head as far as I'm concerned.

To me D/s is about power, about ownership of another person to whatever degree you both agree on. I believe that while the sex could be pretty damn amazing, I think the essence is in the control.

I liken a D/s relationship to a straight one, in that you'd be pretty damn shallow to meet someone, & say 'Hi I'm Dave, lie down so I can have sex with you'

Yes IDCrewDawg, it is because of my wife in a r/l D/s relationship, but I have no qualms about sex play online. lisa & I have dabbled a little in sex play, but up til now she hasn't had privacy at the PC & as I said she's very young. She's also had a big trust issue, it's taken more than 7 months before she started believing I'm with her for good.

I also don't want to have her become dependant on me, to the point where she misses out on experiences with people her age. She's free to do anything, as long as it doesn't involve D/s play.

What's most important to me is that she grows as a person, & lives her life as she should.

Tojo

i[FONT="Century Gothic"][B] too prefer a D/s relationship to a straight one.
i enjoy that i want to submit myself and be owened by my Mistress, giving myself to Her, satisfying Her every whim and having Her dominate me.
i can only speak for myself, but all these feelings start in the mind and heart.
She arouses my senses first and foremost then the my body follows


Tojo,
i have to say, you are one of the sweetest men i have ever come across.
Your girls are lucky to have you.