Do you think that sex is only a penis inside a vagina? Sex is hand jobs, blow jobs, eating pussy, anal penetration, or anything that involves orgasm. Being sexual includes a whole lot more. You are having sex when you give a hand job. So if 'sex isn't an option' for you because of religious reasons, I think that you are not following the spirit of waiting until marriage. You are like a bad sub who does something knowing their Master wouldn't like it but does it anyway because it hasn't been strictly forbidden.

What are you seeking on this forum? Your post doesn't seem BDSM oriented at all. If you could be more clear and maybe we could help you.