a little help please

[virgin 4 u]

i am thinking about getting a new boyfriend and as my name tells you sex is not really an option as of yet when i decide and no i am not a prude. i have almost purely manual relationships which i am quite happy with but the only real option i have with them so far is masterbation which quite frankly they can do for themselves which pisses them off and i am quite fed up of as well i even tried prostrate rubing on one but he had the pain threshhold of a five year old and said my nails were too long.i was just wondering if there is anything else i might try, what feels good? what turns you on and brings you off without the actual intercouse aspects?

[thedominthehat]

*cough* blowjobs *cough*

[virgin 4 u]

honey i will say to you what i say to them only if you do me first or at the same time for some unknown reason most of them scatter at that point like frightened rats on the flaming titanic. note to self will have to start dating older men!!!!!!

[Kostly]

I don't know where you find these men, and I also wonder why you come to a BDSM forum for general vanilla sex advice. As for the nails, let me stick a fingernail in your ass and see how it feels.

I know there is more to this post then what is being said. How old are you?

[BelovedPet]

Do you think that sex is only a penis inside a vagina? Sex is hand jobs, blow jobs, eating pussy, anal penetration, or anything that involves orgasm. Being sexual includes a whole lot more. You are having sex when you give a hand job. So if 'sex isn't an option' for you because of religious reasons, I think that you are not following the spirit of waiting until marriage. You are like a bad sub who does something knowing their Master wouldn't like it but does it anyway because it hasn't been strictly forbidden.

What are you seeking on this forum? Your post doesn't seem BDSM oriented at all. If you could be more clear and maybe we could help you.

[randalpinkfloyd]

hey. you seem young for some reason in this post. so im extending a hi because maybe i finally found someone on here my age. 18 by the way lol.
P.S. i dont understand why guys bolt at the i dea of going down on you. its only fair if you do it for him he should do it for you, and besides i think its extremely arousing to go down on a women, not scary or disgusting.

[virgin 4 u]

i am over age if that is what you are implying and its not even religious reasons why i am still a semi virgin if you will yes i was aware that masturbation is sex but if it counts as being full blown penetrated then i am a total fucking slut. i just havnt cum so hard since that first experience and as i have said in a conversation recently if you aint capable of geting me off you sure as hell aint geting on. i was just wondering if there was somthing light i could do to stimulate them which may lead to them reciprocating is all and maybe a full blown orgasm and maybe i could quit being such a sexually frustrated, miserable, semi virgin. ps i tend to date younger guys, dont wory not in the call the cops now sence, and so not so comfortable evidently i know that it aint too much to ask for a little reciprication with oral but evidently they do. somthing light bdsm wise that gets you off but isnt likely to freak them out if i sugest it.
ps my nails were short i had cut them that week practically back to the pink so what does that tell you wise ass.

[SUBtly_shy]

ouch that is a harsh tone for an honest comment. Prostate simulation or ANY anal stimulation needs lube especially if its the first time. Simple dry skin CAN feel like a nail when its going in your ass for the first time. Have you tried it? At the very least if your going to comment on some ones pain tolerance, you should experience it. Know where they are coming from when they say something hurts. Any way if you want to sexually stimulate some one so they will sexually stimulate you so you can get off? Try having sex tends to work.

[virgin 4 u]

sorry either he had a low threshhold or i have a freakishly high one but then again i have natural lubrication so i appologise to those who it is appropriot to appologise to. see people minus the snarky coments you get the desired effect. as far as the sex coment i still think a decent orgasm isnt too much to ask for first because believe me i am really tight and the first time is probably gonna hurt like hell.
ps to whoever started the snarky comment train i said intercourse was off limits not outercourse yes it is a word if you are not familiar with it i dont know what the hell you are doing with yourself
pps appologies all around am hormonal and think the whole world is trying to piss me off today

[Ladymad]

Any way if you want to sexually stimulate some one so they will sexually stimulate you so you can get off? Try having sex tends to work.

LMFAO...

Ooookay... Lets all relax for five minutes...

You do sound very young, although it may be your lack of grammar and punctuation that pushed the *immature* button... (I can barely read your posts..!)

Firstly... BelovedPet, you said exactly what I was thinking.... Sex is sex is sex is sex! If anyone had ever DARED tell my ex-girlfriend that penetration was the only 'true' sex... lmfao...

virgin 4 u, how young are the boys you are going for? Because if they aren't willing to give a little to get a little, THEY ARE NOT OLD ENOUGH!!! Seriously. Or they are completely stupid. Or maybe queer...

Are you sure you are asking the right question? Are you comfortable doing what your doing? Are you doing it for the right reasons?

And the big one, that everyone is dying to know...

Why are you abstaining from sex?




If you want to cum, the best thing for you to do is R... E... L... A... X! Don't expect anyone else to make you happy... They can only help you on your journey!


Ladym x

[virgin 4 u]

i have to agree, when my hormonal streak ends i will look for an older guy who knows what the fuck he is doing.i do tent to like them pretty but you know what that means mostly about brain activity, if anyone reading this is a guy i appologise.

i am not abstaining really, i am not even waiting for 'the one' as my eighteen year old cousin says, i am in sence religious, i just want to find a guy who knows how to turn me on.i know i can be brought off without sex if somebody just did that i would be over the fricking moon. i came close to sex with one of my exs who introduced me to this but he moved away. quite frankly i could go down the pub and fuck some random like my best mate did on her eighteenth birthday, but i would rather not, in this area you dont know where they have been. so i am a virgin until the time comes that i do without faking it entirely.

[tessa]

i do tent to like them pretty but you know what that means mostly about brain activity

I am so abstaining here.

Here's a website that may have some pertinent information for you. Using the term "pertinent" quite loosely, of course.

Have a look HERE

[cattus9]

I think it's nice to wait for you special partner in some ways... but maybe I'm just a bit of a romantic
Either way there's plenty of things you can do in the mean time, I'd say google around and read some stories, you'll get plenty of ideas hehe, and I say kudos to you for not just having sex for the sake of it, if you want to wait, wait, there's no point in rushing into things if you think you're not ready and with the right person!

[Logic1]

and then to flip the coin..
If you wait then you will loose out on lots of potentially great sex
If you have sex together then the first time might be bad and the second but it will get better with time AND practice.
Sex isnt normally especially spectacular the first time for anybody
Waiting just for waitings sake meaning that you wait until you find HIM... well it just might be so that you´ll have to wait for a long time.

Got kinda curious just how old you are and how old the boys are. I mean if they are real young like say sub 20 then they arent especially experienced, and neither are most girls tbh.

[lozzy]

I have to say I agree with Logic on this one - the first time me and my current partner had sex it was awful... and I really mean awful.

But he gives the best head in the world (and he's sub 20 )

And now our sex is fucking fantastic!!!

I don't know, I sometimes wish I had waited for 'the one' when I started having sex, but I didn't. But at other time I think how much I enjoy being with my partner, and yes, sex isn't everything, but it does play a big part in mine and his lives, and we both think it's pretty ok.

Anyhoo, massive ramblings. Apologies.