I have recently experienced this difference zarine. I had ALWAYS been interested in BDSM in the bedroom- but it wasn't until recently I considered taking it farther. It was only after meeting my Master in person and getting to experience the idea of something more 24/7 in real life that I *knew* that this is what I wanted- and that I probably can't ever go back.

And in terms of "The Voice"? :-P I normally associate that with a very strong and assertive command- one that makes me feel as though I am truly powerless to do anything but obey. Whenever I "played" with BDSM in the bedroom- I never experienced this because even in a "sub" role I still felt I could always say "no" or "stop". However- with my more recent experience submitting mentally on a 24/7 basis, I've found that commands said in such "Voice" bring out the realization that I really do feel powerless to resist, and hence the reaction.

Rachel- I respond to praise very strongly as well at times, but not normally in the same way. Usually I uncontrollably get a large smile on my face and feel almost overwhelmed with contentment. :-)