Quote Originally Posted by DowntownAmber View Post
Yes, that does answer it - at the base level what I was wondering is if you seemed to be finding nice people but they didn't fit in a BDSM sense with what you wanted, or if you were finding good BDSM people that you didn't click with personally.

Hmmmmmm I think you are asking what it is that we are experiencing that isn't working then?

Most of the people either of us have talked with have been, or seemed "nice". Some, just at first. Nice = courteous and somewhat friendly, to me.

Right now we aren't seeking any male, or Dominant people. So other than Friendships, or Mentors, or some things Master is into occasionally, those are not the people we really talk with, as far as seeking them. Primarily we've been talking with female; Submissives, Slaves, and some Switches.

Master is online far more than I am. He is a very charismatic man, experienced, intelligent, fun, interesting, attractive. As I have mentioned in prior posts on this topic. So He easily draws a variety of females attentions. And He talks with a lot of them.

Most times the way it goes is; He talks with them, they become interested in Him/they become interested in eachother, and He tells them that He has a Slave, and we are seeking to add to our Family, but that We All must must compatible for that to be considered. And there is generally one of four things that happen; 1) The female is seeking a Dom for herself solely, and does not want to be with someone she must share. So she becomes a Friend, or leaves. 2) The female is seeking a Dom for herself, but is between Doms, and likes Master, so she just wants to talk and play/cyber, until she finds someone for herself. 3) The female was initially seeking someone for herself, but is very drawn to Master and then becomes confused. Thinking *maybe* she can manage a Poly Style. And then decides she can't. Or one or both of us can see her struggling and hurting, because what she Really needs and wants is a Dom to and for herself alone. 4) The female becomes very attracted and attached to Master, convinces herself she is In Love with Him, and that she must have *HIM*. And that there must be something wrong here, for Him/Us, to be seeking others. So she decides to do whatever is within her power online to be His one and only. And trys her best to divide us.

Master always talks with me about anyone He feels may be worthwhile. Tells me a bit about them. And then He will have me talk with anyone He thinks may be worth His effort. Some have been quite Honest, but many more have not been. Especially the category #4. Most are "nice" to begin with. But the category #4's are sneaky and ruthless. Saying one thing to me, and quite another to Him. And disparage us at every turn.

There has only been one *We* "clicked with" so far. And she, bless her heart, was a #3 . We All gave our best efforts I believe, as the people we each are. There were just conflicts to happiness that couldn't be overcome. Wants are negotiable, Needs aren't. We both adored her each in our ways. I still miss her. And I'm certain Master does too. We REALLY wanted that to work out. A girl similar to her is who we'd Love to share our Lives, Love, and Home with. Minus those crucial issues/differences of course.

Does this answer what you are asking?

Respectfully~SidheWolf


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