Addendum to my response;

I haven't experienced the things I listed above IRT, that I have online. When I've met people at Munches or Poly meet n' greets, they are generally quite up front about what they are seeking. What things they are into. And/or what their Relationship configurations are, or what they hope them to one day be.

This is not to say things can never go awry IRT. We all know they can and do, with any Relationship Style. It's just that via RT meetings, things seem to go smoother. At least to me.

Respectfully~SidheWolf